Dealing with an unsupportive partner, friend or family member can wreak havoc on your good intentions. Our loved ones mean the world to us, and through good times and bad, we lean on them for support and encouragement. But what if they aren’t quick to offer it?

Why Perception Matters

First, know that not everyone perceives weight management to be a positive thing. For some, it can bring feelings of self-consciousness as they look to their own weight and how it impacts their health. This can result in jealousy, competition, shame or other complex emotions.

Others may experience stress, anxiety or even frustration at your goals. It’s likely not because they disagree with your decision, but because lifestyle changes are hard to adapt to. For example: If you drastically cut down on meat, your spouse may be opposed to giving it up too.

Practical Tips for Dealing with Unsupportive Loved Ones

Let’s take a look at what you can do navigate this common barrier:

Watch Your Expectations

Are your expectations realistic? Everyone’s journey with weight and health is unique – including yours. Your loved one may be traveling a different journey at a different pace. Try not to expect of them everything you expect for yourself at this stage in the game.

Journal it All Out

If you’re feeling anger, frustration or sadness, don’t take it out on your loved ones. Instead, look to writing in a journal for a cathartic release of your pent-up emotions.

Be Clear about What You Need

Do you need your loved one to change their eating habits too? Exercise with you or help you go grocery shopping? Listen to your concerns? Tell them that with no room for misinterpretation.

Be Open about Your Emotions

Honest communication is key to any relationship, not just marital. Be transparent about your feelings and how you’re doing on your journey. Let them know your hopes and wishes.

Seek Different Support

Even if your closest loved ones don’t give you the support you need, don’t settle for going at it alone. Find support in other loved ones, a counselor a support group either online or in person.

Create Your Own Happiness

At the end of the day, your loved one isn’t responsible for your health or happiness. Take it upon yourself to build the life you want and set meaningful goals for your health and wellness.

Give it More Time

Your journey may be hard for your loved ones to adapt to, but it doesn’t mean adaptation won’t happen. Be patient, stay in communication, stay committed and hold on.

Tie it All Together

If an unsupportive partner, friend or family member is bringing more harm than good, take a pause. Think closely about the relationship and ask yourself, “how would I feel in their shoes?”

Then let them know how you need their love and support. The rest will follow. Be patient, kind and understanding along the way, as their concerns and challenges may be very different.

Finally, don’t lose sight of YOU! No matter what anyone else says, stick to your plan and be your own advocate. You are the ultimate creator of your personal well-being.